Wednesday, June 29, 2005
Just let me talk!
Ok, I am obviously a bit of a cranky pants today. I don't know why, but let's start a list, shall we?
1. My elbow hurts and it's all bruised from where I gave blood. I know this isn't supposed to happen, but the nurse told me that it is probably due to me picking my 30 pound child up. I actually have to USE the arm, that sucks.
2. No one likes to debate with me. Why is this? I wanted to debate the pros and cons of gay marriage, which was recently passed through the House of Commons here in Canada. Well, gay marriage wasn't passed, but the law ruling it to be legal was. I wanted to discuss it! That's why things happen... so we can discuss them!! No, work friends do not care. They don't want to discuss. Being the Extroverted Feeler that I am, this translates directly to "we don't care about you or what you think on anything."
3. Everyone seems to be down on my favourite test, the Myers-Briggs test. Why this makes me cranky I do not know. I love this test. Take it. Take it, please?
See, there are those who like to understand themselves and those who feel it pegs them into a hole... I think. See, right there? I pegged people, didn't I? Anyways, I took the test a year or so ago and it helped me to totally understand myself. The BF took it and he actually changed careers! We both believe that it is very true to life. In fact, we use it to help our relationship. Because he and I are opposite types, there are often miscommunications.
We use the MBTI to help us navigate our relationship. There are hints and tips that we turn to rather than remain frustrated. Here's a typical one:
ME: "Wanna come to the store with us?" Translation: I want you to come to the store with us.
BF: "Do you want me to?" Translation: Do you want me to come or are you asking if I want to come?
ME: "Yes" Translation: I want you to want to come with us.
BF: "Then I will come with you." Translation: I will go to the store because you want me to.
The thing is... we know what the translations are now... before the MBTI test, it would have opened the door for arguements like "I thought you wanted to come!" "No, I only came because you wanted me to!" But not any more. Now I just ask "Will you come to the store with us?" and he can say yes or no.
But for some people, they run screaming away from this test. Even the mention of it makes them react in a negative way... and usually they thing I'M the evil person trying to pin them down into one of 16 types and they totally resent it!
I guess I don't get what is so wrong with knowing how you tick.
If someone takes the test and it comes out 'wrong'... as in they totally disagree with it, then there is a pretty good chance that they answered the questions the way that they WANT TO BE as opposed to the way that they truly are.
See, I'm an ENFJ. If I take the test the way I would like to be, I'm an ISFP...
For example, thrill seekers are generally Ps.... I'd LOVE to be a thrill seeker... but I'm a bit too much of a chicken... doesn't stop me from riding the biggest roller coaster or wanting to jump out of an airplane... but taking a risk on a new job or starting a new business? That's where the thrill seeker in my dies off ... and a true P thrives.... like the boyfriend who is ALL P... and he up and changed jobs in a very risky manner....
I'd also rather be a bit more of an 'I'... because they I probably wouldn't care so much about 'discussing' everything with people....
1. My elbow hurts and it's all bruised from where I gave blood. I know this isn't supposed to happen, but the nurse told me that it is probably due to me picking my 30 pound child up. I actually have to USE the arm, that sucks.
2. No one likes to debate with me. Why is this? I wanted to debate the pros and cons of gay marriage, which was recently passed through the House of Commons here in Canada. Well, gay marriage wasn't passed, but the law ruling it to be legal was. I wanted to discuss it! That's why things happen... so we can discuss them!! No, work friends do not care. They don't want to discuss. Being the Extroverted Feeler that I am, this translates directly to "we don't care about you or what you think on anything."
3. Everyone seems to be down on my favourite test, the Myers-Briggs test. Why this makes me cranky I do not know. I love this test. Take it. Take it, please?
See, there are those who like to understand themselves and those who feel it pegs them into a hole... I think. See, right there? I pegged people, didn't I? Anyways, I took the test a year or so ago and it helped me to totally understand myself. The BF took it and he actually changed careers! We both believe that it is very true to life. In fact, we use it to help our relationship. Because he and I are opposite types, there are often miscommunications.
We use the MBTI to help us navigate our relationship. There are hints and tips that we turn to rather than remain frustrated. Here's a typical one:
ME: "Wanna come to the store with us?" Translation: I want you to come to the store with us.
BF: "Do you want me to?" Translation: Do you want me to come or are you asking if I want to come?
ME: "Yes" Translation: I want you to want to come with us.
BF: "Then I will come with you." Translation: I will go to the store because you want me to.
The thing is... we know what the translations are now... before the MBTI test, it would have opened the door for arguements like "I thought you wanted to come!" "No, I only came because you wanted me to!" But not any more. Now I just ask "Will you come to the store with us?" and he can say yes or no.
But for some people, they run screaming away from this test. Even the mention of it makes them react in a negative way... and usually they thing I'M the evil person trying to pin them down into one of 16 types and they totally resent it!
I guess I don't get what is so wrong with knowing how you tick.
If someone takes the test and it comes out 'wrong'... as in they totally disagree with it, then there is a pretty good chance that they answered the questions the way that they WANT TO BE as opposed to the way that they truly are.
See, I'm an ENFJ. If I take the test the way I would like to be, I'm an ISFP...
For example, thrill seekers are generally Ps.... I'd LOVE to be a thrill seeker... but I'm a bit too much of a chicken... doesn't stop me from riding the biggest roller coaster or wanting to jump out of an airplane... but taking a risk on a new job or starting a new business? That's where the thrill seeker in my dies off ... and a true P thrives.... like the boyfriend who is ALL P... and he up and changed jobs in a very risky manner....
I'd also rather be a bit more of an 'I'... because they I probably wouldn't care so much about 'discussing' everything with people....
1 Comments:
INFJ
Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging
You are:
* slightly expressed introvert
* slightly expressed intuitive personality
* moderately expressed feeling personality
* very expressed judging personality
K~ I am not sure I agree 100% but it is not too far off. What do you think?
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